If you're not comfortable with your want in the first place, why on earth would you actually ask for it? Seriously!
Serendipitously, in the pages of Jesus, CEO, I read: Jesus "encouraged people to ask for things and to be specific in their requests." (187) When I looked up the reference to Matthew 7:7 which starts "Ask and it will be given to you...." and followed the teensy footnote letter n, I found 9 other instances reinforcing the same thing. Probably not an offer to be the Cosmic Vending Machine but a real offer to take seriously our specific asks and definitely support for asking as a practice.
While I'm not far along in Women, I've gotten enough to give myself the challenge of asking for at least one thing that I wouldn't have before, every day. Here's my "start small" example:
At a pub lunch in Mountain View, I liked the Fat Tire label but was hesitant to order it for fear I'd end up with an entire pint of something I didn't like. Ordinarily, I'd just go for a sure thing instead, but I was curious. I asked the waitress for a taste. She wrinkled up her heretofore smooth nose and forehead and said, "I'm not sure we do that....I've never heard of that.....but I'll check." She came back smiling with a teensy taste which was enough for me to decide I'd prefer a Guinness. A win for the day.
So I'm off on an Ask Adventure! Want to join me? Go make some asks, tiny or gynormous and come back and tell about it!